How do you respond to others when they are struggling a bit?
Do you bite their head off? Kick them when they’re down?
What about when you’re the one that’s having a hard time at the moment?
Give Grace to Yourself (When Needed)
If you’re anything like me, it’s much easier to give grace to others than it is to extend the same grace to yourself.
Life happens to all of us, obviously.
I know this, yet for some reason, I still expect that I’m going to be able to keep all the plates spinning no matter what.
That’s simply not realistic.
When life gets a bit out of hand, and a few plates hit the ground, try not to beat yourself up.
Instead, do the best you can to give grace to yourself and move on.
What Does This Look Like?
Clearly, there’s no one-size-fits-all answer here.
But here are a few examples to keep in mind the next time you need to give yourself a bit of grace.
Move the Target
When a goal that you had set for yourself is no longer something you’re interested in, or no longer realistically attainable, it’s time to set a different goal.
In theory, this is pretty straightforward.
But if you’re not careful, this can also lead to some pretty nasty self-talk where you berate yourself for being a quitter or for failing.
Focus on the Positives
Instead of reminding yourself of things that you haven’t done or areas where you dropped the ball, try focusing on the positives instead.
It’s easy to dwell on the negatives, believe me, but odds are there are plenty of wins you’ve been racking up late that you’re simply glossing over.
No matter how small the wins might be, focusing on the positives instead of the negatives is a good practice to get into.
Phone a Friend
If you are better able to give grace to others than you are to give grace to yourself, confiding in a friend when you’re struggling a bit isn’t a bad idea.
Getting an outside perspective from someone you trust can be a game changer.
Let them remind you that the best you can do is enough, and then keep moving forward.
Be Realistic with Yourself
While it may not be easy to give grace to yourself, it’s just unrealistic to think that you’ll never need to cut yourself a bit of slack.
That said, and where this can become a bit of a slippery slope, is that it’s still good to hold yourself to a high standard.
Expect that you’ll be able to keep the plates spinning most of the time, and do what you can to make it so.
But when a plate or few come crashing to the ground, instead of beating yourself up simply give grace.
And then, move forward.
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